Maybe not so unique but I suspect part of it is...at least, the 18 years of it would be...
I suffer from a rare issue known as ISOLATSIONISM. By that I mean that outside of the online community I have practically no friends and find it extremely hard to make new ones. Maybe it's a fear of being rejected, maybe it's a fear of looking like a complete fool, but I just can't seem to reach out to meet new people and make new friends, or even new aquaitances....how do I go about reversing an 18-year trend?? Not so easy for me to just go up and talk to people...
Here is my take on that Mus, my guess is your single? If you are, first try a singles group, most church holds these, but if your not spiritual, well there are other places that do hold them. I found out by looking in the local paper. There are all kinds of single groups that meet and do things. To do this, you must first have a long talk with yourself, decide if you like being alone, or if you want company, and it looks like you want company, so MAKE yourself get out and do this. Reward yourself when you do. After a while it gets easier.
Second thing that might be easier for you is to Volenteer, most hospitals, shelters, pet shelter, etc would love to see the extra help. This way you not only do something good, but meet lots of nice people in the process.
I agree with Trish on this one musical. Especially the Volunteering. I do a lot of volunteering and I'm a very shy peson. But when you are in a situation where you are woking together with many different people you can't help but make a few friends. Offer to go out for coffee or take up an invitation it's worked for me. Good luck!
Mus I must give the credit for the idea of the Volunteering thing, I see how Beanie does this and she always seems to have so much fun doing this, so Thank you Beanie for that idea..........and if it works woohoo!
I have to go along with the girls on this one. You might also extend an invitation to those who work with you, that you think you'd like for friends. After a shift just remark to whomever, "Man, I could go for a beer/coffee - want to come with?" ISOLATSIONISM is not so unique, Mus. Lots suffer from it. It's just harder to make friends, as a grownup, then when we were kids. But if you take the girls' advice, I'm sure you'll soon have lots of new friends!
